Change can't fill God-shaped void, says Berry resident

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By The Staff

 To the editor:

Many people try to make others change by using anger and intimidation. They threaten and attack…  “If you ever do this, or that, or the other, again, then…” and they give some consequence for non-compliance. The angry person will feel more secure in his/her life, will feel right and justified if he/she can emotionally blackmail someone into changing. 

It’s okay to feel angry, but we cannot control other people. We cannot force people or the world to be the way we want them to be. Everyone has the right to feel how they feel, think how they think, and act how they act, even if we don’t like it or it makes us angry. Everyone also has the right to express their feelings, to say “This is how I feel; this is what I think.” 

Recently I told a few people who are not Christians and who despise me, that I am ending contact with them.

People do hurt us and it’s okay to set healthy boundaries, telling them, “This is my limit; I will not tolerate this anymore.”

Maybe they and many others do not like the ways I raise my son, write about the Lord, choose to dress, wear makeup or that I’m an especially introverted and quiet person, but I am the way the Lord created me, and I will change according to His timetable and not to conform to their standards. 

We can’t change others; we can change ourselves.

How? Get a new job? A new husband? A new wife? Move?

None of these things will help, because we will only carry the same problems with us into a new workplace, marriage, or city.

Someone once told me that everyone has a void in his/her life which nothing in the world and no person alive can fill. The reason is because that void is God-shaped.

The best change any of us can make in ourselves and in our lives is to accept Christ as Lord and Savior. I made my decision for Christ in 1987. I’m not a finished product, so don’t give up on me yet.

“For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: Who shall change our vile body that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.” Philippians 3:20-21

Amanda Shannon